Frankly typing 🙂 I am getting tired of mentioning the name of the pandemic. I am working to make a conscious effort to leave out the C-word out of my posts for now. I know like myself, you are tired, exhausted and probably feeling lost sometimes.
With loss of income and jobs, people are getting depressed, parents are getting extra tired, schools and parents are not seeing eye to eye, couples are getting tired of each other, the boss is requesting for a report urgently and the kids’ school also require attendance for school sessions, customers are no longer buying like they did, contracts are being cancelled,…..All these might not be totally doomsday but there might be some silverlinings.
Now back to the main reason for this post. “How are you really doing?”
I whatsapped a friend….”How are you?”
And the response…..”I dey o” or “Doing well by His grace”……”I hope you are doing same”
I call this the auto response. How best do we type, “I am not fine” or express how we truly feel?
“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.”
― Shannon L. Alder
During this time, the whatsapp messages and the real state of affairs are a north and south pole matter. We are probably conditioned from childhood that the response to “How are you?” is “I am fine”
So we never get to think through it before responding. The question is, “Are you really fine?”
So I ask you once again, “How are you?”…I mean….”Really, how are you doing?”
“Listening is often the only thing needed to help someone.”
I don’t want the auto response when I ask, “How are you doing?” Say how you actually feel. Talking about how you actually feel will be the breath of fresh air you need to blow off the bad energy you feel and it helps with your #mentalwellbeing.
Remember, the strength of a person is not determined by the absence of fear in their life but by their ability to wake up each day and still move on despite the fear.Tweet
The person asking might not be able to provide the solution you need but it helps you to share the load and most importantly don’t forget about the Almighty God in all that you do. If you are not comfortable expressing how you feel with others, trust me! He is the best person you can be real with! Speak to Him or write out how you actually feel.
I have been told I am a good listener, if you need to clear something heavy off your chest or express how you truly feel just send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and we will take it from there.
Remember, the strength of a person is not determined by the absence of fear in their life but by their ability to wake up each day and still move on despite the fear.
Do you have any coping tips you want to share? Contact OMT via email@example.com